UPDATE on "Is this Cheating"
#31
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Well done.I know it is hard to stand up for yourself especially when it is your mother, but there are no quilt police and the quilt is yours to do with as you please and finish it as you please. AS said before there are no quilt police.
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I'm glad you were able to take that important step. It took a lot of courage. Even when you know in your heart you are right, it is so hard to defend yourself against a parent. With luck you mom will recognize that you are your own person and maybe you two will evolve into a better relationship from this.
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Originally Posted by Sandee
Can you show us the pictures of both the quilts? I love pictures:). Also, way to go! I've been putting up with my mom way too long. Her comments were along the lines of " why would anyone want to cut up all that fabric just to sew it back together again?" after I made her a quilt. Guess how many more she's gotten? (0)if you couldn't figure it out........
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I'm so proud of you, that you were able to tell your Mom exactly what was on your mind!
If she's like a lot I know, next comes Act 2 - cold shoulder and guilt trip! Do NOT apologize for standing up for yourself! Invite her out for coffee, and if she decides to make a mountain out of a mole-hill - that is her choice.
If she's like a lot I know, next comes Act 2 - cold shoulder and guilt trip! Do NOT apologize for standing up for yourself! Invite her out for coffee, and if she decides to make a mountain out of a mole-hill - that is her choice.
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#36
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I know you live in a small town and it is such a shame you cannot join a group that does not have your mother in it. She sounds like a domineering person and you will look back with pride on the day you stood up to her!
Dont cave in to her controling "now I'm not talking to" behaviour either. You know that is just another way of trying to control you.
Nest time she tries it, why not laugh in her face? "Oh Mom you crack me up- look everyone! My mom still thinks she can tell me what to do and I am a grown woman! Do I look eighteen? Oh quick, bring me a mirror- We have great genes- we all look young in our family- isn't that right Mom? What a crack up" And walk away from her. She will never be done trying to control your life.
Dont cave in to her controling "now I'm not talking to" behaviour either. You know that is just another way of trying to control you.
Nest time she tries it, why not laugh in her face? "Oh Mom you crack me up- look everyone! My mom still thinks she can tell me what to do and I am a grown woman! Do I look eighteen? Oh quick, bring me a mirror- We have great genes- we all look young in our family- isn't that right Mom? What a crack up" And walk away from her. She will never be done trying to control your life.
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You sometimes have to take the road less traveled and stand up for yourself. I definately think you should feel good about yourself. Conflict is always hard, but sometimes when you stand up for yourself once, you will find you may not have to do it again!! Do things the way you want to..it doesn't matter, it's your quilt and I really like your way of binding and may do it myself!! :D
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You go girl!!! Your mom should be proud of you for the work you do. Some daughters never learn anything from their mothers. I learned from my mother and grandmother and now my daughter is learning from me. I don't criticize her work, just offer her new ideas of making things easier for her. I would definitely always help her even if she was folding over the binding. I know I've done that myself. I hope your mother reliazes what a gem she has for a daughter!!
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