UPDATE on "Is this Cheating"
02-08-2011, 08:32 PM
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Hi everyone. Thank you all for all the kind words. I appreciate all of them.
I thought I would give you an update on this post.
Today I went to my little sewing group like I do every Tuesday at noon. I was actually a little bit nervous to go because I have done alot of "soul searching" this past week with the help of everyones posts and I wasn't sure what I was going to say to my mom when I pulled out "THAT" Quilt.
So, I decided to make a Beach Ball Quilt and took that with me and tried to do the machine stitching all around it...hey that was pretty cool and I had lots of fun doing it. I got 5 of the 13 done. So I guess thats not too bad. Oh and I used Black and a zig zag stitch. Not really sure I like it, but hey its the first one and I figure it is a practice quilt anyways. I WILL make another one of them for sure.
Anyways, I took that Beach Ball quilt AND I took "That" quilt too. When I got "tired" of doing the Beach Balls, I put it away and I pulled out "That" Quilt, spread it out on one of the tables, kind of to check and see if I needed to do any more tying which I didn't. But my mother came out of the bathroom and saw it spread out on the table and she wobbled over as fast as she could and picked up on of the sides and said "I CANT BELIEVE YOU WENT AHEAD AND CHEATED". My heart started Racing, my blood pressure was rising, I could feel the anger circulating through my body and then I opened MY BIG FAT MOUTH....and told her.....
Oh man I thought she was going to deck me.....
I said "YOU ARE NOT THE QUILT POLICE....If I wanted the Police to come and check my work I would call the Quilting Boards Police Department." She looked at me and said "WHO?" So I repeated it, she was dumbfounded hadnt a clue what I was talking about. LOL. Then as she started to walk away, I said to her....ITS MY QUILT AND I WILL DO WHATEVER I WANT to it and YOU WILL NOT tell me how to do it. If I screw it up I SCREW IT up!!! She says "Who told you that you can fold over the backing like that anyways". My response was "Before sewing Machines were invented, the old ladies did everything by hand EVEN Tied their quilts. And THEY couldn't afford to go out and buy extra fabric just to cut up and resew it onto a quilt when there was enough to fold over." And I was very stern and had my feet plastered to the floor waiting for a slap or something for talking to her that way. But it never came. I think I took her totally by surprise. Took ME by surprise too.One of the ladies that goes and normally is very quiet raised her voice and said....WELL DONE DEANNA. Wow!!! Good for you for standing up to your mom like you did. And my mom didnt say not one more word to me for the rest of the afternoon, until she was walking out the door and again said "Thats Cheating" under her breath. Me and this ladie shes a doll and I love her dearly had a good chat afterwards. Because I really did feel bad about talking to my mom that way, BUT...IT DID FEEL GOOD. Thanks everyone for your advice. Oh and she hasnt called or texted me at all since 4:00pm when she left and its now 8:30pm so maybe shes thinking about what I said. Who knows. LOL ")
I thought I would give you an update on this post.
Today I went to my little sewing group like I do every Tuesday at noon. I was actually a little bit nervous to go because I have done alot of "soul searching" this past week with the help of everyones posts and I wasn't sure what I was going to say to my mom when I pulled out "THAT" Quilt.
So, I decided to make a Beach Ball Quilt and took that with me and tried to do the machine stitching all around it...hey that was pretty cool and I had lots of fun doing it. I got 5 of the 13 done. So I guess thats not too bad. Oh and I used Black and a zig zag stitch. Not really sure I like it, but hey its the first one and I figure it is a practice quilt anyways. I WILL make another one of them for sure.
Anyways, I took that Beach Ball quilt AND I took "That" quilt too. When I got "tired" of doing the Beach Balls, I put it away and I pulled out "That" Quilt, spread it out on one of the tables, kind of to check and see if I needed to do any more tying which I didn't. But my mother came out of the bathroom and saw it spread out on the table and she wobbled over as fast as she could and picked up on of the sides and said "I CANT BELIEVE YOU WENT AHEAD AND CHEATED". My heart started Racing, my blood pressure was rising, I could feel the anger circulating through my body and then I opened MY BIG FAT MOUTH....and told her.....
Oh man I thought she was going to deck me.....
I said "YOU ARE NOT THE QUILT POLICE....If I wanted the Police to come and check my work I would call the Quilting Boards Police Department." She looked at me and said "WHO?" So I repeated it, she was dumbfounded hadnt a clue what I was talking about. LOL. Then as she started to walk away, I said to her....ITS MY QUILT AND I WILL DO WHATEVER I WANT to it and YOU WILL NOT tell me how to do it. If I screw it up I SCREW IT up!!! She says "Who told you that you can fold over the backing like that anyways". My response was "Before sewing Machines were invented, the old ladies did everything by hand EVEN Tied their quilts. And THEY couldn't afford to go out and buy extra fabric just to cut up and resew it onto a quilt when there was enough to fold over." And I was very stern and had my feet plastered to the floor waiting for a slap or something for talking to her that way. But it never came. I think I took her totally by surprise. Took ME by surprise too.One of the ladies that goes and normally is very quiet raised her voice and said....WELL DONE DEANNA. Wow!!! Good for you for standing up to your mom like you did. And my mom didnt say not one more word to me for the rest of the afternoon, until she was walking out the door and again said "Thats Cheating" under her breath. Me and this ladie shes a doll and I love her dearly had a good chat afterwards. Because I really did feel bad about talking to my mom that way, BUT...IT DID FEEL GOOD. Thanks everyone for your advice. Oh and she hasnt called or texted me at all since 4:00pm when she left and its now 8:30pm so maybe shes thinking about what I said. Who knows. LOL ")
02-08-2011, 08:43 PM
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Oh Deanna that had to feel so good and so bad at the same time. Good for you for standing up and following it up after it was over with at talk. She will come around you told her the truth and you were right. Well done for standing your ground.
02-08-2011, 08:57 PM
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I'm so very proud of you for standing your ground and for standing up for yourself. If I had your address I'd send you a beginners quilt book which clearly shows that such ways of finishing a quilt are not only valid but a historic way of doing things. Clearly she needs to learn much more herself if she really believes that her way is the only way of doing things. It isn't "new fangled" either. I can show you books with copyrights from anywhere between the 40's through present date that show these techniques. Good for you! Don't let her get to you - and you just keep on being happy!!!! (((HUGS))) Stay strong!
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