what would you do if your daughter came home and said you ex is getting married and ?
11-28-2011, 05:00 AM
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I would help her. As it's been said, whatever has happened between you and your ex, she's your dtr and she asked for help. I don't say it would be easy but maybe you can just see it as a time of sharing and bonding with her.
11-28-2011, 05:06 AM
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I guess the important question is, how amicable was the divorce? My brother got divorced from his first wife when my niece and nephew were 14 & 16. They are now in their 40s and both parents are remarried and they are all one happy family. My ex-sister-in-law's new husband thanked me for being so nice to him. I told him I had nothing against him, that both my brother and sister-in-law were much happier divorced than they ever were married. Only you can decide whether you want to help, but I would say if you want to be a hero in your daughter's eyes, then put aside all animosity and quilt forward. The past is the past, time to move on.
11-28-2011, 06:11 AM
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11-28-2011, 06:33 AM
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Take the high road. Your daughter asked for help and it's one of the best times the two of you could share in something that could become a passion for her. And yes I do have one of those ex's that did everything he could to hurt me thru my daughters long after the divorce.
11-28-2011, 07:02 AM
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11-28-2011, 08:12 AM
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[QUOTE=frauhahn;4722307]The best thing to do would be to help her-but make her do most of it herself. You'll look like a really great person in her eyes. And-you're doing it for her, not for him. I imagine it's hard to be put in this position, though.[/QUOTE
Thumbs up for this one!!!
Thumbs up for this one!!!
11-28-2011, 08:55 AM
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I would definitely help her. After all she will always be your daughter and you want to keep a close relationship with her regardless of your feelings for your ex. She will always respect you for assisting her.
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