what would you do if your daughter came home and said you ex is getting married and ?
11-27-2011, 05:11 AM
#81
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Yes...help her....but don't make it for her. Its a lovely gesture but I think inappropriate for you to "do it". How much does your daughter want to work on this herself? Or is she asking in the hopes that you will whip something out for her?
Could add a little itching powder inbetween the batting and the backing LOL!
Could add a little itching powder inbetween the batting and the backing LOL!
11-27-2011, 05:36 AM
#84
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I guess it would depend for me on why he is your Ex and how long it has been since you divorced. And how much of making the quilt your daughter could do herself. My ex did horrendous things to my youngest to punish me for divorcing him. My sons have never forgiven him for that and so they and the youngest don't see him at all. But my older daughter still sees him and it bugs me, but for her sake I keep my mouth shut. She knows how I feel but I don't make it an issue. I would show her how to make something for him, but she is on her own for doing the work. A quilt is hours and hours of work and I would be afraid he would never use it just because I made it. My daughter appreciates that I let her spend time with him without guilt and she sees what he has done and my keeping silent has shown me to be the better person.
11-27-2011, 05:37 AM
#85
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I would help her. The past is the past. She wants to do something from her heart. I am making a throw-sized quilt for my ex....as a present from my son. I felt awkward when he asked, but he loves his Dad and wants to give him something special for Father's Day. I have no expense involved, as DS actually brought over the fabrics.....
11-27-2011, 05:49 AM
#89
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I would help her only because I love my girls and would hope I am a better person than to hold a grudge. Also, glad to be out of that marriage and glad the new one is married to him, not me. My smaller me might say, "That's not going to happen". Hope I am a better person now.
11-27-2011, 05:51 AM
#90
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That's a tough one. I guess it would depend on how you think your husband and his new wife would respond to it. I personally wouldn't want a quilt if I thought it partly made by an ex. I would hate for her to make it and then feel hurt because they didn't want to use it. If you do decide to do it I would just show her and not do any of it. Then make sure your ex know that she did it all.
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