What would you have done?
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Oh my gosh, I understand how you might feel obligated. Still, a queen-sized quilt is a serious undertaking. I'm afraid I'd communicate how loooooong such a project will take, and how expensive it will be. I suspect that, like my friend's husband, they'll forget about it when the onus is on them to come up with the materials and pay for the quilting. Just because they got you the machine doesn't mean they own you. There is no indentured servitude in this country.
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Originally Posted by desertrose
Since you are committed and don't feel you can back out of the project perhaps there is a way to help you feel less trapped in this project of doom. What if you completed the project as soon as you have the time but delay sending it back to her until spring. By doing to sooner you remove that feeling of I don't want to do this project I hate. You could turn it into a major learning experience on several levels. Do what feels right to you and the doom will disappear.
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Andie :)
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what I did when faced this situation. I said "Sure, just cut it out very carefully, pin the pieces together, come over and iron every seam as I finish a piece and learn how to unstitch it if I sew something wrong."
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So she has bad eyesight? There are stronger glasses available, there are large magnifying glasses that can hang around your neck so that you can sew with them.
If she can't see, why does she not get rid of her sewing machine? Or doesn't she have kids or family who might want it?
Quilting is an art, and when you don't want to sew something, then it rapidly turns into work. And work should be paid for.
If she can't see, why does she not get rid of her sewing machine? Or doesn't she have kids or family who might want it?
Quilting is an art, and when you don't want to sew something, then it rapidly turns into work. And work should be paid for.
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I think I would just tell her that I've changed my mind and won't be doing it for her. If she asks why tell her there are just too many people that expect you to quilt for them and you don't have the time to quilt for yourself or your family anymore. If she offers to pay you, tell her thanks but it still doesn't free up time for yourself.
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Originally Posted by raksmum
I think I would just tell her that I've changed my mind and won't be doing it for her. If she asks why tell her there are just too many people that expect you to quilt for them and you don't have the time to quilt for yourself or your family anymore. If she offers to pay you, tell her thanks but it still doesn't free up time for yourself.
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Originally Posted by Ramona Byrd
So she has bad eyesight? There are stronger glasses available, there are large magnifying glasses that can hang around your neck so that you can sew with them.
If she can't see, why does she not get rid of her sewing machine? Or doesn't she have kids or family who might want it?
Quilting is an art, and when you don't want to sew something, then it rapidly turns into work. And work should be paid for.
If she can't see, why does she not get rid of her sewing machine? Or doesn't she have kids or family who might want it?
Quilting is an art, and when you don't want to sew something, then it rapidly turns into work. And work should be paid for.
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Originally Posted by raksmum
If you have arthritis I would be adding that to the list as another reason you can't quilt for others anymore.
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Originally Posted by catrancher
Originally Posted by raksmum
If you have arthritis I would be adding that to the list as another reason you can't quilt for others anymore.
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