When you see your quilt
#41
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I've made quilts for all my brother's and sister's grandchildren.... and I've never seen how they were used. I don't even think about it..... I enjoyed making them. My nieces and nephews now know that there will be a quilt coming when they have an addition to the family and they seem to be excited about it. That's good enough for me.
I do see the quilts I've made for my granddaughter and her little one. She's saving the baby's quilt for an heirloom but the quilt I made her for a wedding gift is used everyday. So, what each person does with the beautiful quilt you make is their choice. After all, it's their quilt now. You gave it away with love..... now move on to the next one.
I do see the quilts I've made for my granddaughter and her little one. She's saving the baby's quilt for an heirloom but the quilt I made her for a wedding gift is used everyday. So, what each person does with the beautiful quilt you make is their choice. After all, it's their quilt now. You gave it away with love..... now move on to the next one.
#42
I made a quilt for each of my three (step) grandchildren when they were born. I made them to match my step-daughters nursery theme and colors, and bought high quality fabric and paid for LA quilting to complement. I've never seen them again. That hurts my feelings but I won't ever say anything.
My sister hinted that she would like a king-sized quilt made into a duvet cover to cover up her store bought comforter SO THE DOGS COULD GET ON THE BED AND NOT DAMAGE HER COMFORTER. Fat chance I would ever make one for her.
I try to let go when I give one of my quilts as a gift but when I put so much of myself into it's kind of watching your child going out into the world and wanting them to be loved. It is easier to donate a charity quilt knowing you'll never see it again.
My sister hinted that she would like a king-sized quilt made into a duvet cover to cover up her store bought comforter SO THE DOGS COULD GET ON THE BED AND NOT DAMAGE HER COMFORTER. Fat chance I would ever make one for her.
I try to let go when I give one of my quilts as a gift but when I put so much of myself into it's kind of watching your child going out into the world and wanting them to be loved. It is easier to donate a charity quilt knowing you'll never see it again.
That made me laugh - sorry - but it reminded me of the very expensive wall quilt I made that a friend persuaded - nagged - me to part with for her wedding anniversary present as it would be 'perfect' on her wall. It ended up - right side up - on a pool table "to prevent the cat from scratching the felt". I wasn't so much hurt as annoyed - I won't 'gift' anything now unless I really want to; I certainly won't have a good quilt wheedled away from me just because someone takes a fancy to it. I think maybe I over react re that quilt because it was the first Mariner's Compass quilt I made and it took me ages to get every point perfect.
#43
I made a lap quilt for a friend of my daughter. This friend was extremely helpful in atime of need and they are quite close. She had been in the Army and her husband was serving his second tour in Iraq so I made her a patriotic quilt. My daughter said she loved it but I never even got an email thank you from her. A few years later I asked my daughter if the friend ever used her quilt and the reply was that she kept it folded over the back of a chair in her bedroom and would not put it on her bed because her dogs would sleep on it. Last year I heard that this friend is suffering from cancer of the cervix. I made her a single bed size quilt of the cancer colors and told her whenever she needed a hug to wrap up in it. I heard from her via facebook but by daughter told me that the friend took it to the hospital with her every time she had to go. This friend is not very demonstrative but when you hear things like that second hand, it kind of makes it all worthwhile.
#45
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: Any place I can sew
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When you have given a quilt as a gift and later you see it used on a bed, but it is not being shown, another quilt is on top, or a comforter or a bedspread, are your feelings hurt? When you have given a lap quilt and you see it displayed on a sofa, but the back of the quilt not the front is the side that is being shown, are your feelings hurt? Do you say anything? If you gave a lap quilt and thought it would be used on the sofa and you saw it used in the car, would you be hurt?
I'm thinking of a comment that "The front of the quilt was just too busy with all that pattern and color - the solid color of the back was so much nicer."!!!!
I'm thinking of a comment that "The front of the quilt was just too busy with all that pattern and color - the solid color of the back was so much nicer."!!!!
#47
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Big Rock
Posts: 220
Sometimes the back is displayed to protect the front. So no one will spill on it or the sunlight wont fade it. The same on the bed. Perhaps she rotates what is on top and you just have not seen yours on top. Yes sometimes it hurts but we do not know why they do what they do.
#48
I made crib size quilts years ahead of ever needing them for any future grandchildren that I might have. I prayed someday I'd be a Grandmother and who knew if I'd be able to make quilts when the time came. Fast forward many years later and my daugther was pregnant with our first grandchild and I opened up my hopechest and let her choose which one she wanted for the baby. My granddaugther is now 9 yrs. old and she STILL brings that quilt upstairs with her when she wakes up!! It is now in shreds but she won't take anything new she loves her "Blankie". Her brother who is 4 also loves his quilt. He also brings his upstairs when I am on duty babysitting. It does my heart good that they really do love and appreciate them. But I really am more than ready for my granddaugther to adopt a new, bigger quilt and tuck old Blankie away. But so far she won't hear of it!!
#49
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Fox Valley Wisconsin
Posts: 1,920
A gift (quilt) has to be given from the heart with no strings attached. You may have seen it in a car, but it may not always be there. It may have been seen under another quilt, but it may not always be there. Yes, it feels good to see quilts out where you know that they are being used, but we can't control what another person does with a quilt that we gift them with.
#50
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Camden, TN
Posts: 74
I'm just happy that they are being used! When you never see them again is the when I get worried! I learned from crocheting and knitting that people don't understand the value of handmade gifts unless they create things also.
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