dfelker

Thanks Everyone! I have been having a blast. I am loving all of the pictures. I will mail my packages shortly and am in the process of getting them together. I hope everyone is doing well and taking care of themselves. Keep those pictures coming.

sewbizgirl

What a cool quilt, dfelker! My son is getting married in May and I had planned to have the Grand Illusion quilt by Bonnie Hunter ready for their wedding gift. THEN I found out her wedding plans, colors and how simple her dress is, and I chickened out! I think she would probably hate that quilt! So I have to rethink it with something a LOT more tranquil. Starting over!

Linda, it seems even the most reasonable and rational of daughters fall prey to the "Bridezillas". It's all about THEM, their special day, and everything they want. I never believed it would happen to my daughter, but yes, she was a monster too! Don't let it ruin your relationship with her.

I hope you can find a way to go to the wedding... it's a life event that you should be a part of.

Quilty-Louise

My oldest daughter has been married twice, and neither time did she
have a "formal" wedding. So with that said I didn't have any issues
when it came to "weddings".

Than about 1-1/2 years ago the middle daughter just happen to let
it slip that her and the "boyfriend" had been married for 2 years and
didn't even tell anyone. Why didn't they say a word? because he didn't
want to tell his family yet because they were "delicate" (don't ask what
the heck that even means, still no clue).

Well about 2-3 months after she let it out that they was married she
called us to say they was planning to have a "real" wedding and that
she will let us know how much was "our" (her dad & I) share of the
expenses. We told her give us a over 2 years to "think" about it and
we will let her know if we will pay.

Than she decided that they was just going to have a reception and we
could pay for that instead..... we proceeded to tell her that all she wanted
was a glorified party and that since we was the last to know about any
marriage we wasn't fork out ANY money.

She doesn't talk to us anymore unless she is trying to get money. She
doesn't acknowledge me at all for holidays or birthdays.

lynnie

It's such a shame that these normal people turn into bridzillas. I for one wasn't. I ordered a dress from a catalog. opened it and said to my now husband, which one, we both agreed to $87 was spent there. I told him do whatever you want. we did it together in a day or two. I made hand painted wine glasses and my flowers and everyones. I did the invites from Michaels on a 50% off coupon. why such a hassle.
Louise, I understand your feeling.
Brat, how does your daughter expect you to get there in your health. Just stop at the local "dialysis r' us" on your way.
why do these people turn into unreasonable princesses???? It's only a few hours of your life?!?! why spend money on a dress, you can't live in it?Be reasonable, please!

Vitality

Never understood it myself. My wedding dress was $99.00. And I didn't even want an actual wedding dress. I just wanted a white sundress, but I could not find one that year.

lynnie

mine was just a fancy crepe dress with beadng all over the top. good enough for me. what happens??> why the fuss??

ctyankee

I had a 3-week engagement. My plan was to get a simple dress, but hubby-to-be wanted a formal wedding. So I got my bridal gown from one shop (last year's model, $200 in 1980, yikes! That was a fortune!), my 3 bridesmaids' dresses from another shop (rose, dark pink, pale pink) ordered for a wedding that never took place & my hat from a hat shop in a third town. The church was booked for the day I wanted (thought the priest was going to give us a hard time -- if you know anything about those pre-Cana conferences -- so had a Plan B but never needed to use it), a simple reception at my sister's apartment, simple flowers (the florist added daisies to everyone's bouquets because I said daisies were my favorite flowers). We had a 2 p.m. church wedding, then had photos taken by a photographer I worked with back then (since we were on a shoestring budget), back in the days when I was a journalist for a newspaper, then off for a 3-day honeymoon in Cape Cod in May, where hubby proceed to go swimming. <shiver, shiver>

We tell our daughters that when they're ready to marry, we'll leave a ladder outside for them.

ctyankee

Oops! 1984 we were married, not 1980. My computer hates me!

kiffie2413

I don't understand bridezillas either. But they can't really be too "zilla-y" if people don't feed into their demands. Like ignore them, or straight up say, Get a grip, you're being a bridezilla, and I'm not having it..
Quilty-Louise, I laughed at you and your dh response to your daughter...and I don't blame you at all for feeling that way.

Hubby and I will be married 32 years tomorrow, actually. We had a nice wedding that didn't break the bank. I bought my dress on clearance, it just happened to be the dress I liked best, any way.
My maid of honor's mom was a seamstress and she made the bridal attendants and flower girls dresses.

I helped make all the flowers, same lady who did them made my cake.

Hubby and I opted to use our honeymoon money as a down pymt on our 1st house, so we stayed a couple of nights in the honeymoon suite at a local hotel.

All in all, I wouldn't change a thing.

Kif

sewbizgirl

I think the bridezilla mentality is contagious. All those shows on TV about big elaborate weddings! It gets into the girls' heads and they want it all. Plus they are bridesmaids in or attend their friends' weddings and want just as much, or more... keeping up with the Jones'.