I shouldn't be dissappointed...
#12
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My MIL admired my quilts evertime I showed them to her. I made her one and gave it to her. No thanks or anything. Not once did I see it on her bed. She passed away 8 months ago. Up to this day, the quilt has not been found. Dont know what she did with it.
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You're right to be disappointed, because you put a lot of time into making something you hoped would be appreciated and loved. BUT . . .
Some people just don't have a special place in their heart for quilts (or afghans or wallhangings or whatever the gift may be). I've learned that I make them only for people I know will love them like I do. If I make one for someone who isn't a quilt lover (or if I don't know for sure that they are), then I'm taking my chances, and I can't be disappointed if they aren't overly excited when they get it.
My niece loves my quilts - and she even made one for her daughter's "big girl" bed, but she didn't want one for the girls when they were babies. Instead, she preferred my lightweight knitted afghans that were easier for them to drag around behind them as they got older. Baby #1 is almost 2, and that afghan is still her favorite. Baby #2 is about 4 months, and she doesn't have hers yet, but it's in the works.
Baby #1 came over about a month ago to spend the morning with me. I have an old baby quilt that I actually put on the floor for the pets. It has a hole in it, and it was nothing special to begin with - just a practice piece for quilting. Anyway, Baby #1 took a liking to it and would lay on it to watch TV. When one of the cats came up to lay on it, Baby #1 put her hands on her hips, looked down at the cat, and said, "MINE!" So, see? Even if Mom wasn't as appreciative as you would have liked, the baby may make the final decision after all!
Some people just don't have a special place in their heart for quilts (or afghans or wallhangings or whatever the gift may be). I've learned that I make them only for people I know will love them like I do. If I make one for someone who isn't a quilt lover (or if I don't know for sure that they are), then I'm taking my chances, and I can't be disappointed if they aren't overly excited when they get it.
My niece loves my quilts - and she even made one for her daughter's "big girl" bed, but she didn't want one for the girls when they were babies. Instead, she preferred my lightweight knitted afghans that were easier for them to drag around behind them as they got older. Baby #1 is almost 2, and that afghan is still her favorite. Baby #2 is about 4 months, and she doesn't have hers yet, but it's in the works.
Baby #1 came over about a month ago to spend the morning with me. I have an old baby quilt that I actually put on the floor for the pets. It has a hole in it, and it was nothing special to begin with - just a practice piece for quilting. Anyway, Baby #1 took a liking to it and would lay on it to watch TV. When one of the cats came up to lay on it, Baby #1 put her hands on her hips, looked down at the cat, and said, "MINE!" So, see? Even if Mom wasn't as appreciative as you would have liked, the baby may make the final decision after all!
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One of the GD had a good dozen quilts given to her when she was born. She had cancer and started chemo when she was 4 mo old and everytime she went to the Children's hospital they gave her another quilt. Later the parents were very hard pressed to find babies to give all the quilts to, and none of the quilts had any special meaning to them. They ended up at Goodwill. When they used a quilt or a blanket they selected it on the basis of color and the clothes the baby was wearing, nothing else. Pink dress, pink blanket, etc. Someone could have put binding on a piece of minky and it would have meant as much to them as a pieced quilt. Go figure.
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I went through the same thing about two weeks ago. My sons girlfriend did the same thing. She took the two quilts and one large receiving blanket out of the bag and just gave them a glance and put them back. Didn't even open them up.
Her mom and sister on the other hand opened them, checked the stitiching and asked questions. They gushed over them. It hurt my feelings that the one person I wanted to like them seemed indifferent. I shook it off. The reason being I haven't got time to let someone else make me feel bad. I also think it might have something to do with the generation. Lets face it some of todays young people don't appreciate hand made items like we do. If it isn't store bought, it just isn't up to snuff. But then there are those out there who love the hand made items and when they receive them they show they are appreciated.
I think you quilt is lovely. You did a nice job.
Her mom and sister on the other hand opened them, checked the stitiching and asked questions. They gushed over them. It hurt my feelings that the one person I wanted to like them seemed indifferent. I shook it off. The reason being I haven't got time to let someone else make me feel bad. I also think it might have something to do with the generation. Lets face it some of todays young people don't appreciate hand made items like we do. If it isn't store bought, it just isn't up to snuff. But then there are those out there who love the hand made items and when they receive them they show they are appreciated.
I think you quilt is lovely. You did a nice job.
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No doubt she was excited and maybe nervous while opeing gifts. She will love the blanket, when she starts using it and will probably tell you how much she likes it later on, just forgive her for her thoughtlessness and move forward. It is so beautiful, and all of us think it is a wonderful gift.
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