I lied to my husband
#122
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Washington
Posts: 4,001
Fess up, don't lie in the first place then you don't find yourself in this position. You could have said you won it and that wouldn't have been a lie.lol It is our money at our house and I spend it all, so I am lucky.
#123
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Cameron Park, Ca
Posts: 46
When it arrives, if he says anything, I might say "Boy, I learned a lesson. This wasn't such a good deal after all. By the time the shipping costs and stuff were added in, I wound up paying a lot more than I thought -- even though it was still less than I've seen it on sale locally. I'll be more careful next time I bid on something on eBay."
And, if any of your quilting friends wants to know, I'd also say something like that.
Otherwise, I'd leave it alone and not bring it up again "voluntarily". Do some "penance" by making a couple of nice charity quilts using the new machine......
Of course, men never lie about anything and they always voluntarily offer apologies if they DO slip a bid and bend the truth, right?
And, if any of your quilting friends wants to know, I'd also say something like that.
Otherwise, I'd leave it alone and not bring it up again "voluntarily". Do some "penance" by making a couple of nice charity quilts using the new machine......
Of course, men never lie about anything and they always voluntarily offer apologies if they DO slip a bid and bend the truth, right?
#126
You won't be guilt free until you tell him but I think your reasoning is all wrong. Doesn't he spend for tools or toys for his favorite things to do? Not sure why he questions your spending but really think if you can make a word picture for him about your not questioning his spending on lawn equipment or hobbies....See where I'm going? Is he unreasonable with you and/or are you unreasonable with him? Doesn't seem to work well if you don't allow for each other to enjoy some personal tools/toys. Our money is ours whether he earns it or I do but we don't spend excessive amounts without talking to each other. Can't imagine him telling me 'no' to something I really wanted if we could afford it without causing a strain. Hope you get this resolved soon. Guilt is awful to live with.
#127
It wasn't a good thing to lie, but what is done is done, and in 100 years no one is going to remember that you fibbed, so it really doesn't matter. He must make you feel like you cannot tell the whole truth, I would suggest that you are only spending some of your money and like other respondents indicated just forget it, there are bigger issues to deal with.
You need to remember that it is always better to tell the whole truth, than suffer from your quilty conscience.
Enjoy your new toy when it arrives and put this behind you.
You need to remember that it is always better to tell the whole truth, than suffer from your quilty conscience.
Enjoy your new toy when it arrives and put this behind you.
#128
I do believe all of you seem to have forgotten something here! It was "her" money that she spent! Not the "our" money! She wrote the check from her account not the joint account! So, she can spend her money any way she wants and not have to answer for it. As for the lie! Get over it! When has he not told you something that wasnt quite right, and you forgave him!!
#129
Junior Member
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Texas
Posts: 243
Sugarfoot, if the money was yours, its yours. If you earned it or If he GAVE it to you, its yours to do with as you wish. But if he is controlling and domineering that is another thing. Lying does not work. I don't put up with domineering or beatings or any harsh language(been there done that). My DH is great and caring and he usually tells me to buy it if we can aford it. I pay the bills and am the family bookkeeper. I see that all is paid and even ahead of some bills. I put bill paying plans in motion and pay off stuff but my hubby went out and bought me a longarm quilter, a surger and all kinds of other quilty stuff. He works and brings his check home to me. BUT I see that he always has pocket money and we are in the poverty level and on SS. Yes, he still works at 71 in a greasy oil field. We trust God for all our needs. I am not my DH old lady but his wife and he tells people so. Look over your situation and weight the benifits of your life as it is, see a councelor for advise. If you feel you have to lie to him... something is wrong, abuse is wrong. Our daughter has an abusive husband and waiting until their children graduate and then she will make her decision. Abuse is wrong in any form.
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